the chicken in the egg
Monday, November 25th, 2019 05:51 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
amovingtargetCan someone explain to me how dating works? Or maybe how to believe someone might want to date you? Or that you might have something to offer another person?
Society would tell us that we can't love someone until we love ourselves… but how are you supposed to see yourself as lovable, as worthy of someone's time and attention, without being validated by someone's time and attention? You can't offer yourself to someone if you have no sense of self, but how can you know yourself without someone willing to stand around long enough being a mirror until you realise you even have a self?
If you have to have one first, but you can't have one without the other, then what do you have?
Society would tell us that we can't love someone until we love ourselves… but how are you supposed to see yourself as lovable, as worthy of someone's time and attention, without being validated by someone's time and attention? You can't offer yourself to someone if you have no sense of self, but how can you know yourself without someone willing to stand around long enough being a mirror until you realise you even have a self?
If you have to have one first, but you can't have one without the other, then what do you have?
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Date: 2019-11-26 06:18 am (UTC)